This was a chat through Gmail that first day. I've taken many of my posts out, but this shows some of the interaction, rather than just copy and paste email. I noticed this first chat that when I asked questions of "him" he was evasive or had "internet problems." He had never counted on meeting someone who had quite a lot of knowledge of the military.
: I lost my wife through car accident with my son living with me., there are allot of people here who like to be in a relationship with me but am careful because i dont have believe on them and i dont want anyone to broke my heart. But that is life and i have had what is more more that in my life
So I've to move on with another life with a special understanding woman for a serious Relationship which can lead as to married and friendship to see where the future will hold us too..
12:47 PM me: So, where did you grow up Frank?
12:49 PM : In Arizona
me: and no one plans on having heart broken...I understand cautiousness. I don't think we are all that different in that regard as human beings.
Are you regular army or ng? or reserve
12:51 PM frankcolton50: As we are on peacekeeping we are regular
me: which base did you deploy from?
1:02 PM frankcolton50 Tell me more about your self ..
1:03 PM me: I feel as if I've been doing all the talking, Frank, and still wanting to know some of the answers to my questions
1:07 PM frankcolton50: I'm very sorry I had internet problems, What I am looking for in a partner?Love me for who I'm and i promise to love her back,,sincere,honest trust,loyalty and good sense of humor
1:09 PM me: did you have that in your marriage to your son's mom/your wife?
1:11 PM frankcolton50: Florida united state.. Yes but I lost her so I've to move on with same serious woman who will love me for who I'm and trust me forever
1:12 PM me: are you looking for someone just like her? or are you open to a different personality in a woman.....who can be herself?
1:13 PM unique in relationship to you and ultimately your son?
Forgive me for my directness in asking that question. I hope you can understand why I would do so.
1:15 PM frankcolton50: It's okay .. I think I'm looking for a good woman with a good heart, serious honest woman a woman who can love me forever that's all
1:16 PM me: You are based out of Florida?? I am unaware of any Army out of FL I know it's heavy with AF and Navy and Coasties.
1:17 PM frankcolton50m: Oh that's good and how long have you been working with the army ?
1:22 PM frankcolton50: Oh that sounds hardwork lol. Well I've spent much of my life time in U.S.. Arizona)before i was assigned this mission. am ready to relocate to anywhere that i will find my soul mate
me: where is your son right now?
You said he is how old?
1:23 PM frankcolton50: He's 13 years old living with takecare in Arizona now
1:24 PM He's my only son I mean he's all I have in this world
me: but you were in FL??
I think I am confused. LOL
It must be hard to be away.
1:26 PM frankcolton50m: I've stay there before I came to arizona I've my own house in arizona that were my son James lives now. I hope you understand me ?
1:27 PM me: why would I not understand you?
1:28 PM frankcolton50: I just ask because I want you to understand me well
1:29 PM My son have some times be teasing me to find woman .... to be my wife and when i come home,i will like to start a new life with my partner by established a business over there
me: sometimes, I have to admit, things seem to be a bit disjointed communicatively speaking....
1:30 PM what kind of business are you interested in starting?
1:31 PM frankcolton50: Oh I want to find my soul mate first before we will think about that together I hop you get me right ?
1:33 PM me: what part of az is home? what city? you said you own your own home there.
1:47 PM frankcolton50: Sorry I have bad connection today Yes I live in my own house in (Rio Verde, I do prefer intelligence ,humor and honesty.I consider myself an easy going person, soft, warm, romantic,spontaneous, caring, affectionate, detail oriented. I love to make people smile and happy.Am here looking for some one who i will share my life and also understand things easily.i want some one who don't get angry easily.
me: getting angry easily doesn't solve anything. so much time is wasted on hurtful words.
frankcolton50: Oh okay so What have you learned from past relationships..?
1:53 PM me: To trust my gut instinct and not get caught up in the spit polish shine of it all in the beginning....
to take things slowly and watch them develop, instead of jumping too quickly into something before it's appropriate.
to give and take and be patient in the process of that.
1:56 PM frankcolton50: I have learned from past experiences that honesty and listening are very important. Communication is important. Never try and change that person but take them with all their faults. Be caring and thoughtful. Never go to bed mad or angry. Discovering new things together day to day helps keep the relationship alive...
1:57 PM how long were you married?
1:58 PM frankcolton50m: I married my wife when I was 25 years old and it end up 5 years ago
1:59 PM me: for 22 yrs you were married?
2:00 PM me: you had your son later in the marriage...
no girls, just one boy?
2:01 PM frankcolton50: Yes only one boy called James
me: when did you join the military? straight from high school?
college? break in service?
2:03 PM frankcolton50: I've master degree .. what about you ??
me: really? so where did you go to school for your undergrad? in what ? and then your Masters? In?
2:12 PM frankcolton50: What level of education did you attain/have you attained? I have attained . University of Florida
2:14 PM frankcolton50: ...am looking for the same serious relationship that will lead to the future ...a woman i can call my wife my everything someone i can share my life with someone i can all my true lover
me: Yes, you've said that several times.
2:15 PM so, what is your undergraduate degree? and your Masters degree?
2:20 PM frankcolton50om: Nice, I am not here for games, want a life partner for a monogamous relationship..
2:21 PM me: that is a good thing. too many play games.
2:36 PM frankcolton50@: Hello are you still there sorry my intrenet went off again but I'm ready to leave my office now
2:37 PM But I'll like to chat with you again tomorrow I like talking with you and I'll delete my profile on that dating site now because I don't want to talk to anyone ealse again
2:38 PM and I want you to do the samething I'll send you an email to get to know more about each other
2:39 PM I hope to hear from you again take care of your self and I don't want to talk to anyone ok kindly delete your profile on the dating site ok I hope to talk with you again tomorrow