Not sure if this has happened to anyone else, but my dad is currently married to his online romance scammer! My dad is in his early 80's, and he has been a widow since 2011. Back in 2017, he got Facebook invites from a young scantily clad Caucasian woman who lived in Ghana. Out of curiosity, he started an online romance with her. It turned out that she was using an adult film star's photos, and I was able to prove it. I thought this would stop it, but then the woman "admitted the truth", and sent pictures of who she really was - an African woman named Patience. Patience is apparently in her 30's and is "in love" with my dad.
After much back and forth, Patience decided to visit my dad where he lived, in California, USA. My sister and I were in disbelief when Patience actually arrived (we even met her in person). Prior to her visit, my dad had probably sent her a couple thousand US dollars. After she arrived, that's when he started giving her more money, due to the fact that she "was real". My sister and I let the FBI, ICE, social services, local police, etc. know about this. They said there was nothing they could do. The FBI agent we talked to admitted he'd never heard of a case where the scammer actually showed up, since that would be a big risk. He said this meant they (we're convinced a large network of scammers are involved; it's not just this woman) were in for the long haul, and they realized my dad was their big prize.
Needless to say, there is much evidence that Patience is being fraudulent. I was able to look at my dad's email and Facebook accounts, and it was just lie after lie, on how much more money this woman needed from him. First it was for her seemingly never-ending graduate schooling in Cuba, then she gets malaria (twice), then she gets into a car accident (which supposedly killed people), and now it's to bribe the Ghanaian Army to release her from the Army so she can get her Green Card. All of which cost thousands, if not hundreds of thousands of dollars. I assume he's spent close to 400-500K US on her so far, and I found out he's willing to give all of his savings to his woman.
Also, my dad has visited this woman a few times in Cuba, and he's now planning on going to Ghana for the second time this August. Of course, when he visits her, she's always "busy studying or researching", so they don't really spend time with each other.
My sister and I hired a lawyer last year, and tried to get conservatorship. But we lost. The biggest problem is that my dad is still apparently sound of mind. He has a PhD in Physics, and he's always been very book smart. The situation with my dad is that besides my mom, whom he met in his 30's, he's never had any experience with women. I believe this fact, coupled with his loneliness after my mom passed, is what made him so susceptible to this fraud.
If Patience was actually living with him, then I probably wouldn't care so much if he was giving her all his money. She'd deserve it, if she was taking care of him. But she keeps postponing when she'll be able to actually live with him. The main reason is because her schooling is taking so long. She's getting a PhD in Sports Medicine, but apparently this is the longest and most expensive PhD program in the world (even though schooling in Cuba is supposed to be very inexpensive). She's currently scheduled to be done with her PhD as of 2021, but I'm not holding my breath.
My sister and I have tried countless times to prove to him that this is all a scam. We even hired two Private Investigators (one even proved her birthday on her passport was different than what was on her Army ID; but the FBI, ICE, etc. still couldn't do anything because they were Ghanaian documents). He has made it clear that he 100% trusts Patience. My sister is currently not speaking to him because of this. It's really sad knowing that his money could be going to charity, churches, schools, etc. But it's going into the hands of these scammers instead.
I know this post is long (I could go on for pages and pages), but just wondering if anyone has heard of where the scammer has actually visited the victim?