nickolas fredericks Fri, Nov 9
Hello again I hope you've had a good day! I am enjoying getting to know you. You're a breath of fresh air and I can’t help but muster a smile when your name pops upon my screen. I have learnt to embrace any and every source of positivism that has come my way lately. I am not one to let the doom and gloom from my past impede my growth as a person. When we stumble and fall; we look up, dust ourselves, stand up and then move on. Everything in life happens for a reason. I was raised in a household were the women; my mum and aunts where treated as queens. I didn't grow up around misogyny or Made to feel superior to any other race or gender. Hence why I prefer to refer to myself as a citizen of the world even though my passport says 'South African". Afrikaans is my first language but I am more versed in English as parents made sure we spoke English with everyone growing up so as not to feel different from Zulus, Swazis and Xhosa. I have never harbored racist or supremacist views all my life despite growing up during the apartheid era. I treat people for who and what they are.
Life might have scarred me emotionally, but that hasn't deterred me from opening my heart again. Love isn't about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship so both can be a team and weather any storm the couple encounter. It’s on tenets like these that a happy love life survives on. I have learnt to live my life and not dwell on setbacks. My faith was shaken when so much tragedy befell me within a decade having lost my dad, a childhood friend and a maternal uncle. I thought my run of bad luck had ended not until a few years later when I had to bury the love of my life, with my seed in her. I have found unbelievable strength to soldier on from my sombre and depressive moods afterwards.
I’m proud to say I have channeled my losses into being a better person and seeing more of the world. I am not a saint nor martyr but my passion is impacting the world around me as positively as I can. In my travels I have seen people suffering yet still smiling despite living in lands ravaged by corruption, hunger and wars. I have been humbled by the warmth exuded by these people towards strangers and the also how they carry on with life despite the abject poverty, unemployment, illiteracy and diseases which have riddled their countries. All these makes me cherish the little things of life more.
Have a lovely evening xx
Nickolas Fredericks < nickolasfredericks@jfarchitecture.com > Wed, Nov 14
Babes. I just wanted to write you a few words before boarding. I truly enjoy your company even if we have barely chatted last few days. I assure you I won't hurt you in any form. I know all you have for now are my words but they aren't mere words but my covenant to you. I can't assure you that everything will be perfect between us, but I will strive for perfection. I was raised up on good morals, a fear of God and to always respect and appreciate women close to my heart. We could be the wind beneath each others wings.
If you've never been to the Motherland, please do. Sub-Saharan Africa’s long history of being pilfered and left impoverished, has had an humbling ripple effect on those affected most by it. Yet despite all these plus the wars and famine, they find love and joy in their hearts. I am disappointed by how little we in the West value family or express feelings to our loved ones. We mistake being in love for loving someone. Material things are good, but supporting and understanding your other half is key. It’s personally liberating to open your heart to another, so both hearts can beat in unison to find a counterpoint.
When life serves you a raw deal, it’s always best to take a step back and try to make the best of life by testing one's willingness to change and adapt. I believe everyone has a good in them and I focus more on that I want something that would be mutual and filled with growth of both us into better persons. I am morally sound and aware. I might do action and adrenaline stuff, but my heart is fragile. I will take being hurt or used very very badly. That's why I hope THIS is the real thing. I must confess that you have made me believe again. I like this feeling and keeping fingers crossed this dream of ours doesn't turn into a nightmare. I BELIEVE! x
nickolas fredericks Thu, Nov 15
Good evening my lovely. I hope you are having a good day and with your back, it hasn't been too stressful on you today? I am about to hit the land of nod but finally got around to finishing your mail. I will be up in 6 hours to head to site. No rest for the wicked! I am 8 hours ahead of you, so it’s not easy to mail simultaneously or keep up via IM, but I will bare my heart to you with a few words in regards what I want from life. I am an old romantic, so bear with me if this sounds dreamy or fairy-tale like; I seek an angel who I will worship and adore like a beauty goddess. A lady that will love me more, when I least deserve it. A lady with whom I will make love to in a million and one ways, and whose smile will always make my legs weak today, tomorrow and the day after. A lady I would love through her pain, so she can experience joy and smile everyday. A lady whose scent and feel I would love to wake up to daily, and strive to make her take a smile to bed at the end of the day. I’m not shallow minded, nor a God that can create a being, and decide who is fit enough for me, or looks physically beautiful to my taste. For me, age is nothing but a number, in this search for my best friend and lover. Looks are secondary to me, it’s the personality and character that matter more. We will definitely get aged and old, but it’s the conversations and understanding between me and my girl, that would make us feel everlastingly young in our hearts. The skin might be wrinkled, or immobile due to physical ageing, but the love and sparkle in our eyes will still feel like the first time. God forbid illness or accidents, but I want to love and be loved in any state I am.
Life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change, when we least expect; at such a moment there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying we are not ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. If we've been fated to meet via the virtual way, then we shouldn't ignore our destiny. You might be the missing rib I seek, and I may be Me one that completes you till eternity.
Have a lovely evening and wish you sweet dreams xx
PS: Here's a selfie for you before zzzzzzing...
Since I haven't told you much about myself, here’s a brief summary of who I am. For work, you already know what I do. I am not your conventional Architect. I design and build roads, bridges and subterranean pathways. I trained as a Civil Engineer but branched into Industrial Architecture due to it only being practiced by specialists. Work has taken me on a lot of travels. I spend on average, a-third of my year in The Middle East and Orient. I have also had consultancy roles where I have proffered solutions on how vandalisation of oil pipelines could be limited and eradicated if possible. I have never been prouder of myself than the day I decided to become my own boss. I set up my own firm whilst with HOK Architects. They were who I worked with immediately I relocated here. I became less dependent on them over time. Its been a challenge but it has been worth it.
I am not a smoker and neither do I drink alcohol. I am an avid traveler and I've a passion for learning or seeing new cultures. I also enjoy long walks, mostly with my dogs. I swim, play tennis or golf in my spare time. I also engage in and follow football passionately.
I like reading a variety of stuff mainly biographical and anything that's involved with or changed the course of history. A captivating book makes my weekends and allows me chill out. I enjoyed reading Saigon by Anthony Grey and Long Road to Freedom by Madiba. I’m also a fan of the works of Mario Puzo, John Grisham and Patricia Cornwell.
My favourite type of music is mostly those from Sub-Saharan Africa. My play list is filled with Fele, Miriam Makeba, Yvonne Chaka Chaka, Amadou & Miriam, Hugh Masekela, Angelique Kidjo, Youssu N’dour etc. I am also a huge reggae fan. I like Bob Marley, Lucky Dube, UB40 and also new music from Bob Marley's sons, Stephen and Damian. I am not into movies that involve too much gore or meaningless violence. I like a good laugh or something inspiring like Shawshank Redemption and Schindler’s List.
Friends and family will describe me as a loyal and passionate person. I believe in good morals and treating people for whom they are not what they have. I am sincere, honest, loving and will always offer my shoulder for friends and family to lean on. I am from a very small family; just myself and my parents. My dad died a little over a decade ago. My mother is retired and relocated to the UK in September of last year to live with me.
I am attracted to a good character and an interesting personality. The most important traits tor me in a woman are modesty, a good sense of humour and a loving heart. I find intelligence appealing. If she’s a good cook, then this is a welcome bonus.
Voila! x
Thank you. I got Nando and Pepe a few months after I relocated here. Nando is the tinier one. He has pituitary dwarfism. He tends to fall ill quite a lot and its a miracle he's still with us. The vet told me back then he might not make it as far as his brother Pepe. They've been my bestfriends through these trying times.
I only moved there 4 years ago and been living for the past fortnight in London due to work
I have no kids
fiancee was 5 months preggers when she died
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thank you but such is life x
are you on linkedin?
do you use amazon?
lol cant log into mine
I am going to Manila this afternoon and back on Saturday morning...that’s why there's been radio silence from me all day...I’ll write you as soon as I land xx
need to get some digital cards off amazon and cant get them
will miss watching footie now!!
its not streamed here
I forgot to subscribe to the streaming service on my xbox
u can help me get the cards thru ur amazon and I pay for our first date?
go back to the chat and see why
I was having issues
asked u if u cld log into urs
do not add to my stressful day please
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