thought23 wrote:Seems like the only way to get confirmation that your video is deleted is to keep your original contact details (facebook or skype) after a time, and contact them again or let them contact you, then to ask them to send you the video again as proof. If they don't send it then they don't have it.
What does everyone think about this?
I'm just an idiot who got scammed so take what I say with a grain of salt.
1) The people that run this forum are the experts. I didn't find this site until 6 months after getting scammed but everything they say lines up with the best advice out there. TRUST THEM! The steps are 200% trustworthy.
2) You don't need to change your name just use a nickname and a new facebook account. Make it private and don't have a recognisable photo as your profile pic (cartoon pics work well). For me it was instagram they got me on. I deleted my account. That's me I'm never going to be on instagram.
3) How do you get proof? What if they don't contact you for X months? You never get proof. You just have to know that as time goes on they forget. If they can't contact you they can't extort you. If there is no money in it for them they'll walk away. They aren't going to hunt you down if there are easier targets to milk. You are a hard target just by being hard to find. This is your best protection.
4) If you want this sort of closure, talk to the people you're most worried about finding out. Disarm the effects on your life. Go see a therapist, talk this out. Make a plan to get back on with your life.
The scammers want money, as much as they can. They're not honest people you can never trust they've deleted your video. You can never know what's out there.
If you want some peace of mind. Set up some Google alerts to see if your name appears online. Maybe get a pimeyes account they can alert you if your face shows up on the web using facial recognition. There is too much online for them to catch everything and facial recognition is not that good yet. But it helped me feel like I had some control.
I got super paranoid. They way they found me didn't make sense. I spent 6 months learning how you could track someone down with just an image. I believe the people here when they say the scammers are not that advanced. But the technology does exist. I'd rather not give detailed instructions here as I imagine this site is on the scammers radar. It still takes a lot of effort and a lot of hardware to scan a reasonable amount of information. But there exists a tool that can take one of your social media accounts and link you to all your others. A name and a photo is enough to get pretty good results. It's a advertised as a pen testing tool but if the scammers got a hold of this they could get a pretty deep map of your connections. So much so that I'm never going to have a non private social media account ever again. Not just to avoid these scams but because you are publishing too much information it's too easy to correlate all your accounts.
But if you don't mind the video coming out why not publish it yourself?