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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby dk138 » Wed Mar 06, 2019 1:46 am

I guess I'm that unlucky 1 out of 1,000. Like an idiot, I paid, though I did take down all my social media immediately. About two weeks went by without hearing anything, but then they uploaded the photos and started messaging some friends of mine. I didn't respond in any way. I don't know why they went through with it, maybe I seemed more scared and desperate than other people. (This was around January-February.)

It's been about a month since I've heard anything, but emotionally, I'm not recovering well. Knowing that even though I ignored them for weeks, they still tried, makes me think this person is more committed than the usual scammer. I'm probably going to delete this post soon.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Wed Mar 06, 2019 1:53 am

You should leave this post up. Sometimes people do get unlucky and get a real bastard of a scammer, or a stupid one trying to get money from someone he knows will not pay, instead of just moving on and playing better odds with new potential victims. And just because they messaged your friends does not mean they actually had the video or shared it, unless your friends specifically said they saw your video. It may have been just the scammer's ploy to make you come back online and threaten you hoping you would pay. They do this all the time, "Tell Bob to message me, I have news for him." This is typical in a lot of cases.

Just give it another month off all social media and make brand new accounts, using all new email addresses, and keep your phone number off of them, or change that too. None of them keep going forever. He just needs to get the message drilled into his head that he is only hurting himself bothering you and neglecting his "job."

This is important. If you reopened even one of your social media accounts within a month, the scammer may have been encouraged by that, and continued the scam.
Did you go to http://blackmailscams.com, read the advice, fill the scammer form, and follow every single step to the letter?
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby dk138 » Wed Mar 06, 2019 3:10 am

Thanks SlapHappy. Unfortunately, I don't have a way of filling out the form, as I've deleted almost all the accounts and text messages that they used to communicate. I only found this place a day or two ago, wish I had found it immediately.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Wed Mar 06, 2019 1:29 pm

At this point, since you no longer have all the scammer details, we have sent you instructions to get the steps. We do not penalize people in your situation because info is lost. However, we do encourage scammer reporting as it saves others, and we protect the victim as well by making all posts anonymous.
If anyone asks you for money on the Internet they are always a scammer, 100% of the time.
Blackmail Scammed? Go here: http://www.blackmailscams.com/
FAQ https://www.scamsurvivors.com/forum/vie ... p?f=3&t=19
Victim of a scam? Go here: viewtopic.php?f=3&t=26504
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Thu Mar 07, 2019 7:49 pm

Back here in this topic I talked about OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder) and the problems of giving constant reassurance to members with this disorder on this website and in general.
viewtopic.php?f=0&t=4509&p=146972&hilit=OCD#p146972

Today, I've found a woman who has a YouTube channel with videos that help explain what is going on inside the heads of people with OCD. She seems to have some good advice on OCD recovery. Perhaps members or other persons struggling with getting over their scam while also having OCD can be helped by checking them out. You can view her videos on her channel here:
ALI GREYMOND / YOUHAVEOCD https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1qeEI ... pYXUDuADIw


ScamSurvivors are not psychiatrists, psychologists, therapists, or any other medical professionals. We have no affiliation with this YouTube site. We do have 35 years of experience dealing will all kinds of victims from all over the world, so we know the emotional and psychological toll that getting scammed can cause. If you are psychologically struggling to the point that it is interfering with or causing huge problems in your personal life, we recommend that you seek professional help for that.

Our members have described how they got over their scam in this topic and they have given their own reassurances and perspectives about their own scam. How about you? How did you recover? We would like to hear about it. :)
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Blackmail Scammed? Go here: http://www.blackmailscams.com/
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