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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby Big Al » Fri Dec 14, 2018 11:35 pm

Apparently you did not close your Whatsapp too. You need to close all of your social media accounts. Not just the one's you feel like closing. Since the scammer contacted you after 4 weeks you should close all of your accounts and wait the prescribed time again. Then you should open new accounts that have nothing to do with your real life name.

You need to read & do All of the steps.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby Knoxy1971 » Fri Dec 14, 2018 11:55 pm

The issue is my number is also my works mobile no, which I need Whatsapp for.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby Knoxy1971 » Fri Dec 14, 2018 11:56 pm

Knoxy1971 wrote:The issue is my number is also my works mobile no, which I need Whatsapp for.


Can't I just keep ignoring /reporting or blocking their messages, rather than delete WhatsApp. Won't they get bored?
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby Big Al » Sat Dec 15, 2018 12:02 am

They will move on if there is no money in it for them and they can't find a way to threaten you. By leaving an account open you leave yourself vulnerable.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Sat Dec 15, 2018 5:17 am

Peanutbuttahlovah,

Do not judge your own situation or get worried about others' experiences here based on what others do regarding their own different scammer, when they obviously chose not to follow every step we advise.
If you followed all the advice and also make brand new accounts using brand new email accounts and phone numbers if needed, when you come back online you should be safe from the scammer finding you again.

Knoxy1971 left his WhatsApp account open and kept his same phone number. He also chose to pay the scammer, and the scammer is coming back for more as he can easily reach him on his WhatsApp and phone number. He chooses to keep his same business number tied to WhatsApp. So it is no surprise that he will continue to be harassed by the scammer until he changes it. We have seen and given this advice thousands of times here. If you leave the scammer one opening to contact you, they will escalate the scam. You can just about count on that happening most of the time.
This is the reason why we advise closing all accounts and using new phone numbers. But ultimately it is his choice, his risk to ignore our advice.

It's essential you READ CAREFULLY and follow ALL the steps.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby Peanutbuttahlovah » Thu Dec 20, 2018 4:09 am

Hello guys,today i am happy to announce a month have passed without any kind of interaction with my scammer and being out of any kind of social network.

I am thanksful with you guys because you helped me going thru this hard and stressing experience and i am really hoping this is it for me and i can close this sad chapter of my life.

I will keep coming back to update you all with my progress and hope that anything related with this resurface in the future.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby randyjet9 » Thu Dec 27, 2018 9:21 am

It has been 3 weeks since last contact with my scammer. I’m beginning to feel ease again. I’m not sure if I will reactivate my Facebook once it’s been a month because I’ve enjoyed not having a distraction. It’s amazing to see how I went from thinking about running away or killing myself to now enjoying Christmas with my family. It used to always be at the back of my mind. I was petrified and I had begun preparing myself for the worst. I just wanted to say thanks for having this website up. It really saved my life.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Thu Dec 27, 2018 4:39 pm

I’m not sure if I will reactivate my Facebook once it’s been a month because I’ve enjoyed not having a distraction.

A lot of members have decided just that, and wrote about their reasons why in this topic. And that's perfectly fine. I do not have a FB account myself, especially after reading in the media over the years about their privacy issues and policies.
There is a recent one described here, in case you are interested: viewtopic.php?f=4&t=72751
If you do decide to return, make a brand new account, using a brand new email account, and keep your phone number off of it, if at all possible. Change your name to something different, something not easily found by the scammer, change pictures. Set privacy as high as possible, and do not add anyone you have not met and/or do not know in real life.

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